During the first few months of my moving into the studio, there were countless moments where I would crawl on the floor, bawling my eyes out listening to “Drivers License” by Olivia Rodrigo. Loneliness was inevitable after a breakup. I was fucking miserable.
This blog examines my six months on dating apps, specifically Tinder and Bumble, in Prague, Czech Republic, as a 24-year-old Asian single woman. During this time, I created a spreadsheet tracking the 110 matches I received on Tinder (60) and Bumble (50) and their statuses (ghosted, one date, two dates, friends, blocked, or dating). I also took notes regarding red flags with guys I took interest in.
Dear 20-year-old Chou and 30-year-old Chou, glad to see we all sitting here, having yet another identity crisis together. Anxiety sure as hell doesn’t go away when you reach a certain age. But I’m glad we’ve got each other’s back.
I’ve been struggling to write lately. And as a Communications Consultant with a BA degree in Journalism and an MA in Marketing, when I say I can’t write, it’s bad. It means something is wrong.
30 days, 60 matches, 5 dates, and a passionate kiss after 4 hours of just talks. You're gonna have a lot of fun. Trust me.
First impression: He's a bit out of my league, a few years older than me. But we agree to take it slow and he will help me learn and grow. I like that.
“I teach my children a global mentality,” says Vuong Thuy-An, the Vietnamese mother whose son Filip Wu was introduced in chapter two. “First, I don’t want them to be influenced by [nationalist ideologies]. Second, I teach them humanism rather than following any religious beliefs.”
Tran Van Sang, founder of integration center Sangu.eu, teaches his fellow Vietnamese the Czech language, and educates them about Czech laws, policies, culture and history. Now, he is running for a seat in the European parliament. Having been in the CR since he was ten years old, like many of his “banana” generation, Sang was the family’s translator, accompanying his father to governmental offices to do paperwork.
“They think if you marry a non-Vietnamese, your children would lose even more cultural identity,” Anh-Nhat explains. “In Cheb, many Vietnamese men married Czech women and most of them got divorced. The parents are afraid that if we marry non-Vietnamese people, we’ll also get divorced.”
In the research done by Alex Tran on 120 second-generation Vietnamese, 58 percent of the participants have reportedly experienced racist and/or xenophobic assaults during their time in the CR, 86 percent of which were verbal. These attacks harm their self-esteem and pride, make them question their identity and sometimes, leave deep scars in their hearts.